We all come into this world as beautiful, innocent babies that just want the basics; love, sleep, food, and a really good nappy change, right? We don’t come in with prejudice, anxiety, or depression. We just want to be cared for. And for some of us, we’re born into abuse, sexual, physical, or emotional abuse, or neglect, emotional neglect, where we’re not getting loved, or physical neglect. We’re not even getting enough food or proper housing.
And for some of us, we’re born into dysfunctional families. There’s mental illness, somebody who’s in prison, a mother who was violently treated. There’s divorce or there’s substance abuse, like alcohol or drugs. And over time, this starts working on us, it’s kind of like pain. Like a sore that’s just constantly being rubbed and rubbed and rubbed, and it starts hurting and it just oozes and it never scabs over. And we start getting angry and fearful and we’re saying, “I have to do whatever I have to do to numb myself.” So we go and look for ways to numb ourselves.
We spend a lot of money on credit cards, or we overeat, or we under eat, or we start drinking, doing drugs. We start being in wrong relationships or we start gambling or go into pornography. After a while we say, “Okay, I have to go see the doctor.” You go see the doctor. You get placed on medication. You go to counseling and you’re doing everything that you’re supposed to be doing, plus you’re also experiencing side effects, side effects from the medication, like sleeping too little or sleeping too much.
And you’ll wake up feeling foggy. Or you start gaining weight. You become like the Incredible Hulk in one week. Or you just are like, “Wow, this is just not right.” You’re having problems concentrating, problems doing your life correctly. But you’re taking your medication. You’re going to counseling because you know this is what you need to do to stay numb. And for some of us, that’s okay for a certain period of time. Deep down inside, you know that something is not being taken care of. You know that something is very, very wrong.
Research has shown that these adverse childhood experiences, called ACE, can actually increase our risk of anxiety, depression, alcoholism, obesity, and it can increase our risk of suicide by up to 1,200%. Yes, you heard right. 1,200%. I encourage you to Google adverse childhood experiences so that you can get your ACE score and know why you may be experiencing anxiety or depression.
Remember, let’s go out there, let’s make a positive difference, let’s love unconditionally, and let’s forgive quickly.
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